How to detach yourself from someone feelings

Gautam Buddha says when a man binds himself to someone, then expectations are born and when the expectations are not fulfilled then there is sorrow.

A wonderful incident that will tell you how you bind yourself to someone and then get caught in the trap of expectations. 

Once a lady named Amrapali goes to Gautam Buddha and says I was at peace when I didn't meet you But after meeting you my restlessness has increased because I have started seeing the truth that this is my beautiful body which I was proud of. To get a glimpse of which great kings yearn. It will be ugly one day it will not look beautiful one day everyone will run away from it.

I know that one day every man will grow old but I am unable to accept this, what should I do Gautam Buddha says Man has two options either to see the truth or ignore it. But the truth doesn't change it always remain same.

Lets understand this thing said by Buddha in simple words Amrapali is beautiful, who told this thing to Amrapali, people told And she will turn ugly one day, who will tell this to Amrapali people will tell.

How to emotionally detach yourself from anyone?

Did Amrapali ever describe herself as beautiful or ugly? She didn't know that she was beautiful until the first time someone told Amrapali that she was beautiful. But as soon as Amrapali was told that she was beautiful, she immediately bind herself with beauty. Now if Amrapali is beautiful she is happy and if she is ugly she will be sad. Buddha says life is unstable the person who does not accept the instability of this life, sorrow always remains in his life.

Lets Understand in simple words, someone is afraid of being separated from his lover or girlfriend, someone is afraid of being separated from his parents. While everyone knows that one day everyone has to be separated, yet there is sadness in life because this fear or sorrow is natural.

Why you got attached from someone?

Why cry for what has to happen. Now the question arises how those who are not on the path of truth are not on the path of meditation, how can they handle the pain of separation from someone? The answer to this question is that a person's thoughts can change immediately but it takes time to change his feelings or emotion. But with the passage of time this pain will also subside. It is also certain that after hearing about separation from someone, you thought that you would not be able to live without him then Why is everything back to normal a few years after they gone Because with time, the connection that was at the level of emotions ends. Understand one basic thing why you want to attach with someone because you are void from inside you want to fill that void. 

Gautama Buddha Teachings

But you don't know the right way. The teachings of Gautam Buddha show you a right way. Now whether to follow this path or not, this decision was in your hands yesterday and is still in your hands today.

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